” The world already gives single girls the side-eye; there really is no need to bring up singledom on dates. When men say this to me, it makes me feel like something is wrong with me — especially because 99% of the men who use corny lines like this will not make any moves to take me off the market. As a Plus-Size Princess, I often wonder if the guys asking me out have dated big girls before (not that it matters, but I do wonder), and I’ve learned that the answer is rarely helpful.
I really wish you were right, but that’s what makes this question extra annoying: The same guys who ask me what I to do for fun will turn around in two weeks, and ask me what I would like to do for our first date, even though I’ve given them a list of things I do for fun. There is no faster way to make me feel like I’m failing at life than to ask me why I’m single.
I mean, what is the right answer to a question like this?
Should I say, “Well, I don’t hook up right away, so most guys get bored with me, and that’s why I’m single!
” Or should I say, “I get really clingy around month three and it scares guys off, so here I am, solo!
I was having brunch with some girlfriends the other day, and we got on the subject of first dates.
While we all had different experiences, there was one thing we all agreed on: There are a few questions we are absolutely It’s a generic question that breeds generic answers, and doesn’t really give you additional insight into who I am.
Asking me what I “do for fun” kind of makes me feel like I’m on an interview, not a date.
Some of you may be thinking that this question means the guy is trying to plan a future date for us.
This question is a little different from “what kind of guys/girls do you like?