You’re the most important girl in the world to me and I’ll always be there for you but I can’t be in a relationship with you – we need to just be friends.” Well, I’ll give you a few reasons and I’ll also give you the ultimate pull-no-punches guide to getting out of the friend zone. Damaged goods: There are some great guys out there that have had their heart broken one to many times.And by the time they’re in your life, they have a lot of unclaimed baggage that they have yet to resolve.It’s an “It’s not you, it’s me” situation, except it comes before any relationship has even happened.
She attracted him and in some way made it clear (usually without a word) that if he wants her, he needs to act now or lose his shot. hint) 2) He knows he can put up a front and the new girl will buy it… The reality of relationships is that for them to move forward, they need to deepen over time.
It’s amazing how quickly a man will get his act together when he believes he might lose his shot at something. And part of deepening a relationship is knowing the other person more and more deeply and gaining a fuller understanding of who they are. But the dazzling new Cleopatra that stepped into the picture is a blank canvas – he can paint her up to be anything he wants to imagine that she is in his mind.
The less he actually knows about her, the more he can fill in the gaps with his own fantasy.
It happens to guys and it happens to girls and oftentimes, it can cause more heartbreak than an actual breakup. Well maybe one (or all) of these scenarios apply to your situation. He’s cute, he’s funny, and when he’s around you, he completely let’s his guard down. and you know exactly what the other person is thinking.
He’s the only guy that you’ve ever felt truly understands you and with whom you can truly be yourself. you can talk for hours or even just be with each other in silence…
You get to see him as the man he truly is – an unguarded version of himself that he hides from the world and only seems to let you see. So why, in the midst of this seemingly perfect situation, aren’t you any more than friends?Or worse, why (when you told him how you felt about him) does he say, “I really love you.The reality is that when someone hasn’t healed past hurts and relationship wounds, they really aren’t ready to get into a new relationship.MORE: How Guys Deal With Breakups Now there have been times where the so-called damaged guy jumps into a relationship seemingly out of the blue after months or even years of lamenting about how “damaged” he is.This can happen for a few reasons: 1) The new girl he jumps in with completely step out of that “mode” or “funk” he was caught up in. Sometimes a guy just wants a vacation from himself and his problems.See, while you were listening to him sulk about his broken heart and smoothing his hair, new girl appeared out of nowhere as a limited-edition item. But the new girl who just entered the picture is completely fresh – he can act like whomever he wants to appear to be and she’ll accept that that’s who he is. Sure, these arrangements usually end up melting down (maybe in a week, a month or a year), but during that time he gets to postpone dealing with his issues and can numb his pain with a simple girl who doesn’t unearth any skeletons… 3) The new girl had the advantage of a fresh “mystique” – that is, he doesn’t know anything about her and she put up a dazzling image that completely seduced him.